One thing you need to know about me: I hate Ross on Friends, but you can’t deny the true cultural icon he is while yelling PIVOT while pushing that couch up the stairs.
Today, my mind is not so much on Ross, but on the concept of a pivot. Pivots are possibly the most necessary thing in the world. Without a pivot, you’ll be on the same track that may not be right for you, forever. Without a pivot, you’ll never experiment with what may be more right for you. Without a pivot, you’ll never know.
Even though pivots are of the utmost importance to your life journey, if you frame them wrong: you’re going to have a bad time.
I’ve pivoted no less than 10 times in the past five years.
- 2016: decided general personal training wasn’t my thing and I tried to pursue a speciality instead
- 2017: went back to personal training
- 2018: started my own personal training business
- 2019: tried to shift business to mental health
- 2019: shifted focus to baking
- 2019: shifted focus to general health coaching
- 2019: shifted focus to climbing corporate ladder
- 2019: shifted focus to mindset coaching for women with body image issues
- 2020: shifted focus to mindset coaching for millennials in their quarter life crisis
- 2020: shifted focus to personal development and discovery
See? No joke here, 10 pivots in 4 years.
And until pivot 9, every pivot dug a dagger labeled “failure” straight into my heart. With each failure labeled knife, my sense of worth dipped just a bit lower. Over and over I felt “I’m a disappointment, another failed venture.” I put on a great face, showing confidence and positivity to the world, but deep down, I felt shame and unworthiness.
It was not a good time.
As a mindset coach, that right there is pretty devastating. Like I could talk the talk, but I couldn’t walk the walk? Shocking that I wasn’t getting the results I wanted in my business, I needed personal development strategy, not business strategy. But I kept pushing, kept pivoting, and kept increasing my desperation to find a path, just hoping that anything would stick.
The one thing that constantly stuck? Scripting my courses and challenges. I loved writing down the script to helping people, but actually performing it? Not my fave. Now, this writing thing is clear as day to me, but at the time, I really was not aware how much I really loved it.
But anyways, when I was creating my most recent course, just a few months ago, I was writing out the self discovery training and something I wrote hit me like a brick to the face: you are worthy of every pivot necessary to become your best self. And I meant it. So why wasn’t I living that way? Why was I treating my own pivots as evidence of my unworthiness, but encouraging others to feel worthy in theirs? That question helped to shift everything for me.
I’m in a big pivot stage right now. I am accepting that I don’t know what my path is, but that I’m willing to experiment and try as many things as possible in order to find out. Not only that, but I don’t feel as though I’m failing right now. I actually feel as though admitting that I don’t know what I’m doing and I’m willing to do what it takes to find out is actually a success. For the first time in my life, I’m saying “ok, I don’t know what I’m doing, and, rather than keep pushing towards what I think I should be doing, I’m going to find out what I am called to be doing.” For the first time in my life, I’m showing myself just how worthy I am because I’m worthy of every shift I need in order to find my true path.
Instead of being afraid of failure, see failure as necessary. It’s necessary to fail in order to know what doesn’t work for you. It’s necessary to fail in order to know when you need to pivot. It’s necessary to fail in order for you to grow.
Instead of seeing a pivot as a failure for yourself, see it as an opportunity. It’s an opportunity for you to learn exactly what you need to learn in order to level up.
Don’t be afraid to pivot, you are more than worthy of every pivot that brings you to your true self.
You are worthy no matter what, and it’s never too late to pivot to find your perfect path.
You’re worthy of that time and effort.