I also posted this on my instagram, but these lessons have been so impactful to me in the past month, that I wanted to also write a blog post about them. In this post, I can elaborate and allow my words to get across the meaning they truly have had over me, in a way that the character limit on Instagram captions just can’t.
The past month or two have been nothing short of completely transformational for me. I truly feel as though I have been able to shed familiarities of my old self and step into the power that my new self has. In this shift, I have felt lighter and less nervous. I have felt more seen and heard, even though I have been communicating less. I feel at home with myself. This is the first time in my life I have felt this way, and old habits die hard, so I immediately started wracking my brain, wondering where the shifts occurred. In this dig in to where the change actually happened, I came across the four lessons that shifted my reality.
Nothing is really real
Yeah, I said it. This one is truly the biggest lesson I’ve learned in the past few months. Everything that we know to be real and true about the world we live in just really isn’t. Every problem that we have, every mold that we’re meant to fit in, every box that we’re expected to check, they are all man made. These qualifications and expectations of the society we live in were all created by a human just like me. That’s wonderful that these norms worked for some people, but it has never sit well with me that we live in a one size fits all world. It has never sit well with me that I was born an individual, yet still expected to be like everyone else.
The question I have been repeating for weeks now is this:
If other people have the ability to shape the world like this, why can’t I?
(Hint: I can, and so can you)
It’s ok to change
Going off of lesson number one, there are no real limitations on potential besides our own minds. Sure, there are economic and social challenges that may physically prevent you from making major life changes right now, but there’s nothing concrete keeping you from being the same person you were one minute ago. You may not be able to change your environment, but you always have the power to change your thoughts, beliefs, and actions. In changing these thoughts, beliefs, and actions, you change the vibration and energy that you emit. With this new energy, you bring new opportunities and experiences to your life.
This change isn’t easy, it’s actually downright terrifying. It will always be easier to stay the same than make a change, but if you stay the same, so does everything else. Even if it’s hard, even if it’s unexpected, even if it’s against the norm, if it’s for your best interest, make the change.
It’s your life, if you want to change something about it, screw what anyone else says and just DO IT.
It starts with me (or you)
In the past month, I’ve been selfish AF. It’s been all about me and my needs, and taking the time and energy necessary to make sure that I am supported and my needs are met. I took a step back from work, I took a step back from doing, and I took a step back from the Molly I have grown to be hella familiar with. Guess what? My life didn’t suffer because I stopped doing 24/7, my life has improved. The break of the past month has shown me just how much of an impact taking care of myself has on everything around me, from my relationships to my mood to my drive to my work.
Basically, if I don’t take care of myself, I set myself up for a bad time. We are the things that every effort and piece of work starts with. It can be so easy to get caught up in the rush and norm of “doing doing doing” that we forget to how important we truly are. When you don’t take breaks, when you force yourself to work constantly, when you’re always doing, you run yourself into the ground. At that point, everything in your life is harder, and everything suffers. It’s worth it to take time for yourself.
If I suffer, everything suffers.
When I thrive, everything thrives.
Letting go is THE key
For the first time in my life, I feel as though I’ve been able to truly let go. I’ve said it for years, telling myself that I’m releasing XYZ or teaching how important the concept of surrender is, but I’m not sure that I’ve ever truly experienced it. It’s been a frustrating thing for me, to not be able to really practice what I preach. As a recovering control freak, it’s hard as hell to release control. All I want is to know exactly how things are going to pan out, when it’s happening, and the exact result. That’s not too much to ask, right? Wrong.
It turns out we don’t have control over really anything besides our own thoughts, actions, and beliefs. When you try to control your environment or other people’s actions or the trajectory of something outside of you, all you’re going to do is bring yourself anxiety. You will never know how something is going to happen. Accept this fact now: you are not a time traveler and cannot see the future. Because of this fact, struggling to hold on to control is really pointless.
And boy, have I learned that lesson. I’ve released old behaviors and habits that don’t serve me, I’ve released my desires to the universe with faith and trust, and I’ve released my expectations. With this release, I still have stresses, but I don’t feel stressed. I feel calm and confident, with way less anxiety.
Focus your energy on things you can control and release everything that you can’t.
Have some trust that you’re going to be ok,
Have some trust that it will all work out for you.
10/10 recommend implementing at least one of these lessons into your life ASAP.
The change I’ve felt in learning these lessons has been massive and powerful. It can be overwhelming at times, and it can be scary, but in these changes, I feel renewed.
I’m curious, what life lesson have you learned recently?